Abuse of any kind is shocking, tragic, and rightly produces a response of holy anger. More so, abuse from someone in authority — especially spiritual authority — stirs up many other emotions both in and outside of the church. As news has become public of abuse from one of our community spiritual leaders, we know that many of you will have conversations with friends, family members, and co-workers. And you may wonder, “What in the world am I supposed to say to them?”
First, just listen. Let them vent their emotions. All of their emotions. And listen without judging them as emotions are surely running high among those who feel betrayed.
Second, pray for them. Though the world may mock us when we say, “We are praying for you,” God’s people believe in the power of prayer. So as you listen to them, pay attention to what they are saying so you have specific things to pray for.
Finally, encourage them to continue in the faith. You may hear them say, “I’m done with the church.” Or “I’m done with Christianity.” Gently point them to the fact that their faith was never in a spiritual leader, but in Jesus. He is still King. He is still Lord. And He is still building His Church, which means He hasn’t given up on her and neither should we.
Below are a few resources on how you can best support and care for those who have been abused. Be praying for the victims. Be praying for the church. Be praying for all of the families involved. Be praying for those who may yet come forward.
Finally, know that at Gateway we strive to be a community where people are safe and cared for — especially those who have experienced abuse. We take precautions, especially within our Next Gen ministries, to safeguard everyone. If you would like more info on these precautions, you can email our Next Gen team.
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